Your attitudes and behaviors on dating will be a model for your children.Teenage children are entering a new world of dating behavior that may include sex, and will look to their parents as models of behavior. Research has shown that single parents’- and especially mothers’- attitudes and behaviors on sex and dating influence their children’s attitudes and behaviors.Remember that meeting a new partner will bring up many emotions for children. The effects of divorced mothers’ dating behaviors and sexual attitudes on the sexual attitudes and behaviors of their adolescent children. For related content, check out our Divorced Mom’s Guide to Dating site here!Sticking to neutral turf helps the parent provide the necessary structure children may need while being introduced to new partners. Meeting new people can be difficult, even more so when you are divorced and you have children.This is why there are a lot of single parents who remain single, with little time to date and the fear that their children will simply not accept their new partner.
Parents need to make sure before things get tricky that children understand their continued importance to them, the freedom for the child(ren) to continue a close loving relationship with the ex-spouse (despite any personal misgivings) and the possibility of new people in the parent’s life.
Overtime once you meet someone nice who understands you and your family’s needs, then you can take the risk and eventually introduce them to your children. There is no point in introducing that new partner as ‘the new Dad or the new Mum’ to your children, as in their eyes no one will ever be able to replace that fatherly or motherly figure.