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(aka "Baby ready now") is a dating website specifically for people who want to be upfront with potential partners about their desire to have children. K.'s The Guardian:"I couldn't seem to meet anyone willing to prioritise starting a family and struggled with when to mention wanting kids any time I met someone new. Then one day I read a profile from a 38-year-old who said she knew it was 'really bad to admit' but she wanted children.
One woman kept him and her child separate because their “friends with benefits” situation didn’t call for that level of connection.
Another wanted her child to call him “Daddy” after only four months of dating, so he had to fall back from that situation.
Whatever the perception, the majority of single mothers and single fathers want to date, find loving happiness with a great partner and build a solid companionship that makes them and their children happiest.
She acknowledges that there’s always the fear a man won’t be welcoming when she tells him she has a child, but that just lets her know she needs to keep it moving.
Single parents should feel comfortable dating for dating’s sake, if casual fun is all they’re after.
There are no rules stating that every person you date should be viewed as a future stepparent.
Melanie, a divorced mother of two teenagers, says that she vets the guys she’s interested in pretty thoroughly early on.
Even if he’s not at the “meet the kids” stage, she needs to know that when the time comes, she’ll be comfortable with the intro.Sometimes people just want to have fun adult time away from their children without feeling pressure to be anything more.