When it comes to younger men dating much older women, there's a whole different set of power dynamics at play.Here, men who have dated much older women explain what it was really like."Dated a lovely woman that was exactly twice my age. She’d been through a terrible, abusive marriage, and had three grown children, two of which were older than me.In 10 years time she would have been 48 and I would have been 36, I would be in a prime of my life trying to motivate an older woman to act as young as I would be.If I were 42 when she was 48, there wouldn't be much difference to notice. "They were much more comfortable with their own sexuality," she says."And they seemed to love a smart woman who understood sports and classical music." A trend on the upswing Stanton was apparently on the leading edge of what experts say is a new trend: older women dating younger men.It was so corny and so much fun." Stanton, who has recently settled into a relationship with a longtime friend 18 months her junior, found that men who had grown up with the women's movement tended to be less possessive.She didn't have to conform to a rigid idea of what a woman should be, she says, and her young boyfriends didn't treat her like a trophy or an acquisition.
It may be a trend on the upswing: Thanks to higher divorce rates and higher percentages of people who have never married, today 40 percent of the 97 million Americans 45 or older are single.
Research on dating habits of these 40-plus singles is sparse, but according to an AARP survey of 3,500 older singles, 34 percent of women in the 40-to-69 age group date younger men.
And 14 percent of women age 50 to 59 say they prefer dating men in their 40s or younger.
Stanton recalls a relationship with one young man she still calls the love of her life.
"I learned to cook with him, because he ate everything, even my mistakes, with great gusto and appreciation," she says. Sometimes we'd sit in front of the fireplace singing country-western songs at the top of our voices.Her ex and her kids treated her like shit, and unfortunately she let them.