If a woman isn't considered that physically attractive, her shyness will be reinterpreted as well, but this time in light of a different of unflattering stereotypes ("She's not talking because she's weird and anti-social and mad at the world") This isn't so much a practical issue as an attitude that can make a shy woman feel their concerns are dismissed or misunderstood.The belief is that since men are expected to initiate romantic relationships, and to do the work of easing any of the woman's initial hesitation or anxiety, shy women don't have to work as hard to overcome their issues.Keeping with the nature of shyness, once a woman has finished the above-mentioned type of nervous conversation with a guy, she'll probably start beating up on herself. He came and talked to me and I barely said anything back.Now he'll think I'm not interested." or "I turned bright red like I always do and made absolutely sense when I opened my mouth to talk to him." or "I'll never meet anyone being shy like this.Naturally they can also be shy about other steps further along in the dating process.They're likely going to feel anxious about those first few kisses, or may be really inhibited, self-conscious, and insecure when they start to fool around with someone.If he talks to her she may get totally flustered and tongue-tied, or be so anxious that she ends up babbling on when it's her turn to speak.
This piece was a little different to write for me, since being a guy, I didn't have the benefit of being able to draw on my firsthand experiences to inform my points (though you'll still see me interjecting a male perspective in parts).Similarly, if a girl is standing around a party and not talking to anyone, people will tend to assume she's unfriendly (unless she has a blatantly shy 'deer in the headlights' look on her face.) I think this view arises from a general belief that women are just more socially competent in general. Just that sometimes the default assumption is that women are naturally more comfortable in social situations, and so if they seem distant or untalkative it's because they're choosing to be that way.