I’m simply trying to free you from an arbitrary, contradicting checklist that falsely promises to land you “a good Christian guy.”Is someone making burgers, ’cause I’m about to roast a sacred cow. ”What people seem to be forgetting is that you’ll learn 91.342% of everything you ever know during marriage. You’re marrying her because her current decision-making suggests a long-term value for character.
If you use the phrase, “Don’t marry her for her potential,” in a discussion, it’s considered pro-level wisdom. You’re marrying him because his unflinching honesty thus far suggests a lifetime of honesty and vulnerability in your relationship. A good choice today doesn’t solidify a good choice tomorrow. Women have a tendency to date “fixer uppers” in order to feel needed.
I fully identified the long-term strengths, weaknesses, upsides, and downsides of all my closest friends within the first hour of meeting them. Dating is only as serious as you make it, or as fun as you allow it to be. This is the inescapable, platonic box to which a girl supposedly designates any good guy who actually cares about her. This can go both ways, but it seems most prevalent for guys.
I’m not recommending that you have no minimum requirements for dating. Here’s the problem, ladies and gentlemen: The friendzone is a lie. If you want to be taken seriously as a date, take yourself seriously as a man.
I’m simply pointing out that the whole purpose of dating is to get to know someone which implies you didn’t know him/her on that level beforehand. Your sex drive is not a rogue feature of your biology just waiting to destroy your life at the first opportune moment. People who know who they are and are going after what they want tend to be very, very datable.
If you’re emotionally broken or scarred, go get healing. But if you’re healthy, the only rule you need to follow is simply to be you.I don’t recall signing over my personal responsibility to every woman on the planet with nicely toned legs and a propensity for living. I’m just saying that if you know what you want, why wait until he figures it out? If you get married at age 25, you’ll spend at least two thirds of your life in a relationship. One of the biggest problems in Christian dating culture is the idea that young adults should limit their coed relationships to marriage fast-track candidates.