Friendship in a relationship is extremely important. If you create attraction with a woman but aren’t friend material (read comfort) eventually it won’t work. You will never turn that into more as long as that is how she views you.In the book, The Mystery Method, “Mystery” (you can search this guy out on your own – I don’t condone all that he says but there is some good stuff) offers this equation: Attraction Comfort = Seduction. But if you create friendship without attraction – that is all it will ever be. The point is that people, male and female, date people they are attracted to period. We’ll talk about how to get out of/avoid the friendzone later, but that is not the point of this post. Maybe, I don’t have the guts to ask this girl out so instead I will become “friends” with her. Honestly there are some guys who are lacking self confidence and think this is literally the only way to get to hang out with women they like. Finally there are guys who are “friends” first because they aren’t sure they want to actually date a particular person or they want to be “friends” with multiple people. Some 39% of heterosexual couples that got together in the US in 2017 met online, according to a recently released study (pdf) by sociologists Michael Rosenfeld and Sonia Hausen of Stanford University and Reuben Thomas of University of New Mexico.This was also the case for more than 60% of same-sex couples that year.
“People used to make up stories about how they met, so they wouldn’t have to admit that they met online, but now many people embrace it,” says Thomas.“Now it is basically an individual quest.” This has also created a billion-plus industry to help people on that quest (paywall).