“Dating is an inner game,” he says, but instead of searching from the inside out, we’ve been taught to approach it from the outside in, to accommodate ourselves to the mating market by making ourselves into something we’re not.
No wonder so many people are yearning for “authenticity.” I recently sat down with Page to discuss dating in the 21st century. KP: The inner game of dating is an inside-out approach.
But we’ve been hurt, misunderstood, or taken advantage of in those places, so we haven’t learned to honor those qualities, which are our humanness.
When we lead with our humanity, that’s when things really start to change.
That meant that you needed to be flexible with me when it comes to my son. Well, one Sunday he wanted to go out and I told him that I didn’t want too. Munch did end up going to Urgent Care and was later diagnosed as having shigella, but that didn’t matter. How are you expected to cater to your man and to your child too when you just meet someone? I would never be upset if someone’s child was sick or they needed to be a parent first. C is an incredible father who respects and loves the fact that I’m a mom first. Who supports you in raising wonderful and good human beings.
I remember that I had met a guy and we had gone out a couple of times. I explained that my ex-husband had sent me a text that Munch was not himself and not feeling well that day. I was asking for more information and he just responded That statement stopped me. The possibility that my son could be in urgent care was too much for me. Needless to say I sent a text back to the guy to say that my son was sick and I wanted to stick close to home in case he had to go to urgent care. He was disappointed and I never heard from him again. That man had broken a cardinal rule…being upset that I told you no over choosing to be a mom. Remember that I told you that I wanted someone to love me and my son as though we were flesh of their flesh. Who believes that there is nothing more valuable than creating and crafting the minds of the future leaders of America.
One of the hardest things to do is date when you’re a parent. He doesn’t believe in allowance (but secretly spoils his son) and I am going to start giving Munch an allowance.
Whether the other parent is active or not, I think we can all agree that it is hard dating when you’re a parent. He believes that driving is a right of passage that a boy must undertake by his senior year in high school (I think it depends on their responsibility level). He respects that I’m a mom first, a girlfriend second and knows that I will always trust his judgement.
It affects people internally, weakening the desire for commitment because the perfect person for you—your mythical soulmate—is just the next click away.HEM: Right, how do you accommodate yourself to what the possibilities are out there—and turn yourself into something you may not be.