In 8th grade, my ex started "going out" with a friend mere days after we broke up.
It wasn't cool then, and it's not cool now.
It ends with him declaring he's ready to forgive and move on to being friends. Bryce and the ex-BFF say they didn't start dating until after Vanessa and Bryce were over, but does it even matter?
Personally, I think this guy is a lowlife scrub, and I don't think I would have behaved differently if I were in Vanessa's place.
Examples of this might include different interests, goals and values, incompatible schedules, dishonesty, infidelity, physical or emotional abuse, or just not being ready for the responsibilities of a serious relationship.
Ask yourself what has changed while you've been apart that has affected or resolved these issues to your satisfaction.
None of these, she says, are good reasons to date him.Vanessa and her ex, Bryce (I'm changing all the names in this saga, btw), had dated for almost two years, but broke up this spring because he "needed space to find his own happiness."Vanessa was heartbroken, but gradually--thanks to a big career boost and the support of her awesome friends, natch--things were looking up. After lots of tears, Vanessa told Tara she felt betrayed and wasn't sure she could continue the friendship--the trust between them was gone.Vanessa was yelling and crying, sure, but obviously this was a huge shock.If you plan to give your ex-boyfriend a second chance and resume dating, it's important that your open mind and forgiving heart are balanced by a healthy respect for your own self-esteem and self-worth.
Make a list of the reasons you and your ex-boyfriend parted.As part of the healing process, she also points out that you, in turn, need to let go of your suspicions and obsessions that every time he's now out of your sight he must be cheating.